Last night, after dark but not terribly late, someone knocked on the front door. Loudly. Repeatedly. Not crazily — not like pounding on the door, or anything — but definitely very decisively. Like maybe six or seven hard knocks, not a gentle two or three taps. I was sitting on my bed, already in my pajamas, but Jamie answered the door and began interacting with the person who had knocked. I mildly eavesdropped, and then began more seriously eavesdropping, because Jamie was being… well, overly helpful.

The person at the door was looking for the guy who lived in my room before me, who, therefore, moved out well over a year ago. It seemed to me that the right answer to that was a simple, “Oh, he’s been gone for a long time, and no, I don’t know how to get in touch with him,” and then you close the door, right? (The guy did not leave a forwarding address of any sort, so I spent a solid few months writing, “Moved, no forwarding address” on his mail. Dude is gone.) Instead, Jamie was offering to call the landlord, to see if she knew his new address, and to look in his phone, to see if he still had the guy’s number. Sophie, meanwhile, was being a good girl (aka no barking) — but a bit of an active girl — running back and forth between the front door and my room, seeming unsure of herself.

Eventually I got curious enough to get up and look, as much to reassure Sophie and calm her down as anything else. The guy at the door was in uniform. A green uniform. Um…

I could tell from the tone in Jamie’s voice that this was not, say, a sanitation worker uniform, or an air-conditioning repair uniform, but I couldn’t actually tell what kind of uniform it was from my quick glance. Meanwhile, the guy at the door was saying, “Do you mind if we come in and look around, just to, you know, say we’ve done our jobs?”

I was already moving toward the front door (yes, in my pajamas!), as Jamie was saying, “Uh, let me just check with my –” to say, “Yeah, of course, come on in.” And automatically as the three (3!) sheriff’s deputies started entering the house, I added, “This is Sophie, she’s friendly.”

Two of the deputies stayed pretty close to the door, while one did a quick pass through of the house, checking out the bedroom at the back and then glancing into all the rest of the rooms. I asked one of them if we were allowed to know why they were looking for the former housemate, and he told me a moderately confusing story about his car leaving the scene of an accident and winding up in a ditch, and them wanting to know who was driving the car and what had happened. I felt like he was being interestingly careful not to allege that the former housemate had committed a crime, but I don’t know whether that was because he thought I might immediately call said former housemate to tell him the police were looking for him, or what.

Anyway, the searching deputy was almost finished when he noticed a closed door. Oops. The landlord keeps a room in the house and it’s locked. We don’t have access. Fortunately, I think, for all purposes, we’ve also blocked off that door with a shoe rack on which clutter accumulates and which can probably be seen pretty clearly from the front door. It made it sort of obvious that no one was using that door regularly. It also would have been almost impossible to have blocked it off while they were at the door,  so the idea that former housemate had been quickly hidden was improbable, I think.

Meanwhile, the oldest and most serious of the deputies had looked at Sophie, no touching, but the youngest hadn’t been able to resist her cuteness, and the searcher — while contemplating the locked door — also had to bend down and rub her ears and say, “Good girl, Sophie.” She was facing the dilemma of which stranger she most wanted to make friends with, and sort of bouncing back and forth between them, inviting them to give her pets. Obviously curious, but also just such a love. 

At any rate, I’m not sure which of them made the decision — I feel like there was sort of a mutual shrug between Searching Deputy and Oldest Deputy — but they left without needing to go into the locked room, and all went back to normal.

And it was only then — only after they were gone! — that it occurred to me that ICE is doing immigration raids in Florida right now and that I would absolutely not have wanted to assist ICE, not even to the extent of letting them look in my house without a search warrant. I’m not exactly mad at myself — in the grand scheme of things, I think letting sheriff’s deputies glance through the house to make sure a hit-and-run driver wasn’t hiding out is fine — but I’m a little mad at myself. It was instinct to let them in. No one here had done anything wrong, we had no reason to make the deputies’ lives more difficult, so why drag out an encounter and turn it into something hostile when it could be quickly over? It was a reasonable choice. But I wish I had asked why they were looking for him and made sure it was not an immigration issue before being helpful.

Many, many years ago, but post 2001, when I was living in Santa Cruz and we were at war in Iraq, (back when I went to demonstrations for peace and donated money to anti-war organizations), my phone would often make weird clicking noises and then sound echo-y, sort of like it was on speaker. One day, on a call with my brother, we were speculating about whether it was bugged, and whether the government was listening to my calls, and I said something like, “I wouldn’t really care if it was. What is anyone going to hear? Well, I guess I would care a little, because it would mean that they were wasting time on me when there are actually real threats out there.” I would think nothing about this, except that soon after that conversation, my phone stopped making weird noises. Maybe the phone company fixed the line. But I have wondered over the years whether the government was actually listening to my calls. It isn’t a thought that makes me angry, it just makes me think that I might lack proper wariness about obtrusive government.

Anyway, in a first time for everything, the police searched my house last night and I was glad that my dog was cute and charming and completely non-threatening to them. But if it ever happens again, I hope I’ll ask my questions before I let them in.

 

 

Sophie and I were coming inside from the backyard, which is a thing we do every day, usually multiple times in a day, and I was babbling to her, as I do every day, multiple times in a day, when I saw that she had a little branch from one of the trees stuck in her fur, dragging on the ground behind her.

I said, “Come here,” and before I even had a chance to think “that’s not how I call the dog,” she’d turned around and rejoined me about ten paces behind her. I pulled the branch free and she returned to our previously scheduled house entry, without pause.

I was awed. In the midst of my literal babble — I’m sure I was telling her she was a pretty girl or a good girl or something like that, but I could have been commenting on the weather, because I often do — she managed to discern a command (or at least a request) and she chose to immediately obey it. She is SUCH a good dog.

The other day Jamie was eating in the living room and she wanted to join him, so I opened the bedroom door for her, and she immediately went out into the living room and assumed the proper begging posture: sitting next to his feet, head up, eyes alert on his food or maybe his face. Not obnoxious begging, as long as you can ignore the eyes — not trying to climb into his lap or stick her nose into his food or even putting a paw on his leg — just the attentive, “I am here and I would like a bite of that if you feel so inclined.”

Jamie laughed at her and called her a beggar, and from my bedroom, I said something like, “Sophie, are you being a pest?” She immediately went into complete hangdog mode, head down, tail between her legs, and retreated to her doggie bed under my bed. It was the lightest reprimand imaginable. Neither one of us used a harsh voice or a firm no, because neither one of us actually cares if she’s a beggar. I always give her the last bite of my food or let her lick the plate. But you would have thought we’d scolded her for mass destruction or something. I had to cajole her to get her to come out from under the bed and we both had to love her up with ear and tummy rubs so she would know she hadn’t done anything wrong. She’s really just ridiculously smart. I wouldn’t have thought either of us had used the words beggar or pest often enough for her to understand them as pejorative, but she clearly did.

Anyway, I didn’t intend to start this post with dog adoration — I was actually going to write about healthy food choices, ha. But dog adoration is always a fine sidetrack, IMO.

Yesterday I went to the Spellbound Writer’s Group and the creativity exercise was one about choosing a writing mantra for the year. Dani, the group’s leader, had a set of questions, as follows.

When I think about writing: 

1) I am most proud of… 

2) I’m ready to let go of…

3) I need to give myself permission to… 

4) In three years, I want to be… 

5) How can my calendar better reflect these priorities? 

6) What’s different about me and my writing is… 

7) When do I feel alive, enlightened, reminded of who I am? 

What word or words will I channel into my writing experience? How do you want to feel when you write? Use the word bank (a separate page) as inspiration. See if you can select 1-3 words for a mantra. 

I didn’t answer all the questions, but my favorite answer was to #3.

3) I need to give myself permission to — get things wrong, make mistakes, celebrate my own voice. 

I’m giving myself permission to do those things. Not sure how that will work out for me, but I’m at least going to try.

When it came time to pick my one to three words, I had some that I liked that had popped up for me along the way of thinking about my answers to those questions — relaxed, curious — but I started reading the word bank and nothing was really resonating. Nice words — abundance, accomplished, aware, etc. — but I wasn’t feeling them. What did I want from my writing? What did I want as a goal? What was going to be my message to myself?

I’ve been working on a blog post/introduction to Choosing Happiness for MONTHS. One of the things it features is a discussion of happiness and what goes into happiness. How we define it, how we’ll notice it when we see it, how we’ll recognize it. There are dozens of different definitions. Gretchen Rubin, in The Happiness Project, says “one positive psychology study identified fifteen different academic definitions of happiness.” In the end, the definition that I settled on is derived from Arthur Brooks’ definition, in Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier, which is “The macronutrients of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose.” I quibble with “purpose,” (which would require a much longer post to explain than I’m willing to write this morning), so I modified it to “satisfaction, enjoyment, and engagement.” 

So yesterday afternoon, while I was thinking about my writing and what I want my writing mantra to be, that definition of happiness popped into my head, and I realized that it was perfect. I want my process to be satisfying, engaging, and enjoyable, and I also want the end product of my writing process to be satisfying, engaging, and enjoyable. It’s like the ultimate goal: happiness in writing, happiness with writing, happiness in life, too. So my writing mantra for 2025 is satisfying, engaging, and enjoyable, and now I have to get on with doing some more of that sort of writing.

Possibly that means writing about Sophie a lot. Hopefully it also means finishing some of the projects that I have underway.

Oh, one last thing! I was asked about concrete monoliths. Technically, yes, I suppose that was an exaggeration. But not necessarily much of one?

These are the things that are being buried in the street outside the house. They’re big! And yes, that one on top is someday going to be completely underground, while the one on the bottom will be the new side and curb of the road. The former park across the street is supposedly going to become a retention pond, although it currently looks like a landfill. And as far as I can tell, the project is going to go on forever. They dig up the road every weekday morning, then fill it back in every afternoon. Actual signs of progress are minimal. I’m sure it’ll end someday. But it won’t be someday soon, as far as I can tell.

I am not going to use that as a metaphor for my own work. But it does make me wonder, how many projects can I finish before the road work does? I wonder if I made it a competition if it would improve my motivation?

Today is the day after my (more or less) weekly grocery store visit. Most of the time, that’s meaningless, really. Oh, most likely I will have fresh fruit in my yogurt, at least for a few days, and probably I will have some salad, but running out of fresh produce is generally the trigger for my next grocery store visit, so one way or another, I don’t think much about it.

Today, though, is different. I was away for a few days at the beginning of the year, on a fun little mini-vacation that included time with family & some delicious restaurant eating and when I came home on the 3rd, I was really tired. So I didn’t make it to the store on Saturday. On Sunday, I spent a big chunk of the day at Christina’s, playing games, eating her extremely delicious chili, and celebrating the new year with a fire in their fire pit, so I also didn’t make it to the store.

And then Monday through Wednesday, the construction project in front of my house meant that I couldn’t actually drive during the day. Yeah, that construction project — ugh. Every afternoon, they fill the holes back in, so people can drive on the roads during the night (and also maybe so they don’t kill themselves walking into big holes in the road in the dark?) And then in the morning, they dig the road up again and do more stuff with giant pipes and concrete monoliths.

People who don’t live here say, “When is it going to end?” People who do live here say, “OMG, is it ever going to end?”

Now, obviously, I could have gone out in the evening or in the early morning on any of those days, but I didn’t, because I still had food options. Some cabbage, canned beans, frozen chicken breast… I wasn’t starving by any means.

Yesterday, though, I went out early, over to Mount Dora to play with computers with my dad and stepmom, who are learning to use Macs. (In their 80s, and I really hope that should I make it to my 80s, I will still be enthusiastically learning the way they choose to.) On my way home, I stopped at the grocery store.

No big deal, nothing special, just… the grocery store.

But today has felt like a day of anticipation & abundance, with such potential for small pleasures. I bought a loaf of gluten-free bread ($8), some eggs ($6), some cheddar cheese ($5), and an avocado ($1), so now I’m getting to think about whether I want a) grilled cheese, b) French toast, c) avocado toast, 4) scrambled eggs with toast, 5) tea with toast and the cranberry-cinnamon jam I got at a Christmas market a few weeks ago. Such good choices! And it’s giving me so much pleasure to anticipate which of my delicious options I’ll be having for my lunch. For breakfast, I had yogurt with strawberries, supposedly in season now according to the sign, but definitely on sale; blueberries from a BOGO; and pistachios, also from a BOGO. Also delicious and I did my best to eat it mindfully, noticing how good it was with every bite.

But it really struck me what a perfect example of hedonic adaptation this is. How often do I take my groceries mostly for granted? How often do I spend more time worrying about prices and whether my choices are healthy than I do thinking about how delicious my meals are going to be? Honestly, most of the time. Anything familiar stops being a pleasure unless you really make an effort to break out of that hedonic adaptation — or unless something happens to break you out of it.

I’m not grateful for the construction project. But I’m grateful for the reminder that healthy food is not just fuel for our bodies, but an experience to savor & anticipate & appreciate.

I’m thinking grilled cheese.

 

When I looked up last year’s end of the year blog post, it was with pessimism in my heart. I’ve been feeling like a failure, to be honest, waking up in the middle of the night and getting stuck in pointless ruminating and/or solving all my problems and then promptly forgetting those solutions the moment I actually get out of bed. I’ve spent more time trying to understand why I’m stuck (on ALL the things) then getting unstuck, and most of my solutions to getting unstuck just get me more stuck. I was prepared to discover that I’d completely failed to achieve my goals for the year. 

But when I read my blog post, I discovered that my words for 2024 had been “Focus” and “Fun,” and I felt a little burst of… call it forgiveness, maybe? Forgiveness for myself, for not fulfilling the ambitious project-oriented goals. Because I actually did quite a lot in 2024. I got certified as both a master life coach and a master wellness coach, I read a ton of books, I learned a lot, and while I didn’t produce much, I spent plenty of time working on my ideas. Thinking time matters. Yes, my perfectionism got in my way, but I also needed to take the time to shape what I’ve learned into something that made sense to me, that felt right. And yeah, that felt a lot like spinning my wheels — but I haven’t failed unless I give up. And I’m not giving up. 

Meanwhile, I did have fun. Lots of fun, actually. Beach trips and hanging out in downtown Sanford, thrift stores and flea markets, live music and Disney adventures. Writing group and writing with friends. A couple of good trips — Costa Rica, despite mostly being about the dentist, was a good experience, and my trip to South Carolina in the middle of summer was truly a delight. Plenty of good meals, and some excellent desserts. I read a ton, my favorite form of recreation (an almost embarrassing 463 books, according to the Kindle app) and played with my dog every single day.

2024 wasn’t a financially rewarding year. (Understatement.) Career-wise, it was close to a bust, although I do hope that I’ve been setting the stage for better years to come. But it wasn’t a bad year at all. I don’t feel good about what I failed to accomplish, but if I was on my deathbed looking back, I wouldn’t be saying, “I should have worked harder and had less fun.” It’s only because I’m not on my deathbed and hopefully have a lot of years to go that I feel badly about what I failed to do.

One thing that I did realize, though, as I looked back on my year, is that it started sliding downhill in August. Coincidentally — or not! — it was so hot in August that I stopped cooking complicated vegetable hashes for breakfast. I just didn’t want to stand over a hot stove stir-frying for fifteen minutes. Also coincidentally — or not! — it was too hot to want to exercise much. I walked less, gave up on riding the exercise bike and stopped even thinking about daily step counts. So of my three fundamental rules of happiness: (sleep 8 hours, no more, no less; eat plenty of vegetables, ideally seven to ten servings a day; move your body in ways that feel good as often as possible), I was breaking two. Possibly not coincidentally, I started struggling with the third, too, having a much harder time getting to sleep and sleeping through the night.

So 2025 is going to be a back to basics year for me. I’m not saying that sleeping 8 hours, eating plenty of vegetables, and moving more is going to magically make me accomplish more, but I’m pretty sure it will, actually. Because those things are the basis for feeling good and people who feel good also do more. Meanwhile, I’m going to stop beating myself up about what I failed to accomplish in 2024, and start appreciating what I did accomplish: it was a fun year with plenty of enjoyable moments in it, and lots and lots of learning. 

That said, I’ve been struggling to pick a word for 2025. None of the usual suspects feel quite right: I’ve already used Create, Appreciate, Learn, Gratitude, Grace, Focus, Play, Fun, Change, Kindness, and I’m not going to use Growth, Rebirth, Energize, Evolve, or any of the other words the Washington Post recommends. But I really have appreciated my focus words over the past five years — they’re a good way of checking in with myself, to see if I’m on track with where I want to go, who I want to be.

The word I keep coming back to, though, is forgiveness. I’m not sure why, not sure what I’m going to be forgiving, but what I get from the word is a feeling of letting go, a feeling of… the opposite of beating myself up, I guess? Of breathing out and breathing in, of healing, maybe a peace that is not hard fought, but simple. I’m not sure forgiveness will help me reach my financial goals (ha), but when I look back on 2025, twelve months from now, if its included plenty of forgiveness, I suspect it will have been a good year. The other word I like is resilience. I keep trying to tell myself to take one step at a time, and I think resilience is the word that best reflects that idea. I don’t have to achieve ALL the things — I just have to keep trying. So 2025: forgiveness and resilience and onward we go.

Happy New Year!

 

 

I told Sophie this morning that it was too cold to sit outside and we couldn’t play anymore, and then I looked at the weather app on my phone.

It was 58 degrees.

I was embarrassed, to be honest. What a wimp I am! But also kind of amused. It took such a long time for me to adapt enough to Arcata to think that temps in the 50s were comfortable, and such a short time for me to adjust right back to Florida. But we are having a nice little burst of winter now — I’m wearing my favorite jackets every day and drinking hot tea — and I’m enjoying it, even if I am reluctant to sit outside for hours and hours. It fits so well with the time of year, to be just a little chilly.

Many of my neighbors had their Christmas decorations up even before Thanksgiving, but there are more every day. I rolled my eyes a little last week — can we not at least wait until after we give thanks? But then I decided that maybe people were just really, really ready to get into the season that celebrates light in the darkness, hope and generosity, kindness and giving. Maybe people just felt like looking forward to Christmas was easier than being thankful and the sooner we got to it the better.

In that spirit, Jamie and I bought a Christmas tree this weekend, and decorated it yesterday, when its branches had time to settle out a little. We each have Christmas ornaments of our own, so they’re blended together on the tree, mostly harmoniously. Mine are all flat wooden ornaments, mostly hand-painted, because they were what was easiest to keep during my van life. They don’t take up a lot of room. They’re all from a few specific years of my childhood, namely 4th and 5th grade, and then 8th grade and later, so they have nostalgia for me, but the nostalgia is all childhood nostalgia.

I get a good hit of nostalgia from Jamie’s ornaments, too, though, because he’s got a lot of pop culture, things relevant to my life, if not really to my childhood.

One of his ornaments, Dumbo, gave me such vivid memories of Rory at almost 3. We had the Disney videotape, no idea where it came from, and R wanted to watch it over and over again, even though it always made him cry. It was one of my first and strongest moments of mystification as a parent — that complete uncertainty about what the right thing to do was. Do I let him watch it, even though he cries? Do I make it disappear? Do I stop the movie to discuss what he’s feeling? Do I just comfort him during the movie? Is this experience, that he clearly wants to have, because he keeps asking for it, good for him or bad for him? I knew I wasn’t going to tell him that he was being ridiculous and there was nothing to cry about — it’s sad! — but avoiding that social programming was a challenge. We’re so culturally indoctrinated to try to make people stop crying, because it makes us uncomfortable to see someone crying. But I can remember holding him on my lap, his head against my shoulder, agreeing that yes, it was tremendously sad that Dumbo was being taken away from his mother, but he didn’t have to worry, because that was never, ever going to happen to him. Oh, the irony.

Jamie’s Harry Potter ornament reminded me of staying out until midnight with R and my nephew, Ty, at a Barnes & Noble, waiting for the release of the last book in the series. July 2007. When midnight finally rolled around and they started to call numbers to buy our books, the line was insane and it looked like it would be another hour at bare minimum until our set of numbers was reached. Poor Ty was falling asleep standing up, so we left without getting our books. I promised to come back the next day, but on our way home, driving through the quiet dark night with two sleepy, sleepy boys in the car, I passed an open Walmart, with a few cars in the parking lot, and thought, “hmm…” So we bought our books, yes, multiple copies, at Walmart. I stayed up all night reading and passed my copy over to R in the morning, gritting my teeth not to tell him how very unhappy it was going to make him. I knew that Hedwig’s death was going to break his heart.

And then Star Wars… I probably wouldn’t have thought of this except for the Dumbo memories, but Revenge of the Sith, the movie where Anakin kills the kids, came out in May 2005, and all of R’s friends seemed to be going. He was, in fact, invited to go on the release day by one of his closest friends and some others. A little pack of boys, all aged around 8, going to a PG-13 movie. I said no. Yes, I was the mean mom! He was not pleased. I promised him that we’d buy the DVD the very day it came out and he could watch it at home, and I also did my absolute best to acknowledge that I was making a choice that was making him really sad. He was honestly pretty great about it — at 8, he was a very rational small person. No temper tantrums, no whining, not even a lot of sulking, although he was definitely sad. I think maybe I gave him some other treat? I don’t remember the details. But the day the DVD was released, we went to the store and got it immediately, and he watched it in the tiny living room of our little duplex on Seabright while I worked on my computer in the bedroom. He kept bopping in and out of the bedroom to tell me what was happening, and eventually he came and flopped down on the bed next to me with a sigh. I asked him if he was okay, and he said, so simply, “You were right. I don’t like this movie.” I was so grateful to him for saying that. It’s hard to be the mean mom. Really hard.

Anyway, lots of memories. Bittersweet, of course, but bittersweet still has sweetness to it. And it’s lovely to have a Christmas tree. I put it on a timer, so that the lights would go on and off automatically, but this morning when I got up, it was still dark outside, so I turned the lights on by hand, and maybe we’ll just leave it on all the time. Light in darkness, that’s the meaning of the season to me.

And meanwhile, Miss Sunshine is informing me that it would be SOOOO nice to be outside. She loves this weather. She has a yogurt face right now, because I let her lick out the yogurt container after my breakfast, and it’s cute as can be. Not that she isn’t always cute as can be, but the yogurt gives her a special touch of cuteness.

 

 

Later today I will have a high-tech laser shot into my mouth to vaporize decaying & infected tissue, followed up by an injection of my own blood, pre-spun in some kind of centrifuge or something, to stimulate the growth of new tissue with some healthy bacteria. I’m torn between finding this really cool and really gross. Really gross, mostly. But also kind of cool?

Sometime next year I will have a far more complicated and probably unpleasant (also expensive) procedure done to restore gum tissue by moving healthy gum tissue from the roof of my mouth to the front of my mouth. It’s going to include two weeks of recovery wearing a plastic mouthguard to protect the wound. I’m decidedly unenthused, made even more so because that problem has been caused because the tooth in question is misaligned with the others and gets over-brushed because of it. I really have to wonder whether if I’d never had braces, I would currently have this problem. Bah.

The infection, though, is… well, it just is. Not caused by anything I’ve done, not related to the work I had done in Costa Rica, just a body with a lousy immune system not doing a good job of fighting off a basic bacterial infection. The worst-case prognosis was terrible, of course — the infection is in my dental implants and it’s really not great to have an infection in your face eating away at your bones — but hopefully this expensive laser is going to fix everything up and I will start to feel better more or less immediately. I’m extremely anxious about the whole thing, but I also absolutely have my eye on the prize — no more weird face pain, no more worrying about what’s happening inside my head. Well… I suppose I’ll be worrying about whether it’s actually worked. But I’m going to have faith that it will.

In other more appealing news, I told my housemate yesterday that a golf cart turns every outing into a magical adventure. Thanks to my wonderfully generous parents taking advantage of a sad opportunity for me (short version: their really nice neighbor passed away and his kids were selling his golf cart for a great price), I now own a lovely golf cart that I can ride into downtown Sanford and around my neighborhood.

Apart from the sheer fun factor, here’s a great golf cart discovery I made: when you are riding on a golf cart with a really cute border collie style dog by your side, every single person you pass smiles at you. About 50% of them wave, too, especially the little kids. I’ve driven it down the farmer’s market a couple times, to the park once, and to visit Christina and Greg a couple times. On Saturday, I had dinner with Christina and Greg and had it out after dark for the first time — I knew the headlights worked, but it also has two lines of sparkly bright blue lights that made it feel very Christmassy. Magical, in fact.

I just skimmed through my photos from the past six weeks of silence, looking for one to include, and I’m amazed at how much I did that I haven’t written about. I felt like I wasn’t writing because I was processing election grief and dealing with infected dental implants and working on other things, but along the way, I went to the Magic Kingdom with Jamie for one last visit to Tom Sawyer Island (it’s disappearing forever next year, turning into Villains Land or something like that, which does seem like such a metaphor for the move from Disney as the celebration of childhood to the celebration of greed); Epcot to the Food & Wine Festival with Christina and Greg; and the Cirque du Canines at the Ritz Theater, a dog show with dogs doing clever tricks, with Christina. Also all the usual stuff, of course, farmer’s market and thrift stores with my friend Joyce and hanging out at Celery City.

Poor Sophie has her paw on my leg and is attempting mind control, and I’m going to succumb, because she’s not wrong: we should be walking right now. It’s another beautiful day in which I will probably choose to spend more time outside with her than I do sitting at my computer. I keep telling myself that I should bring my computer outside with me and work there, but mostly I’ve been sitting in the backyard and reading escapist fiction obsessively while she watches the squirrels. Really, I have so much to be thankful for, including high-tech lasers.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Nothing is better, when you are feeling just a teeny-tiny bit sorry for yourself, than remembering that you have mint chocolate chip ice cream bars in your freezer, and they’re still frozen, because you have electricity, too. What a delightful life.

My moment of self-pity really did have to be teeny-tiny, as well, because it was caused by a single solitary fire ant bite. Just one. Yay! (I mean I’d rather have zero, as anyone would, but one is so much better than any other possible number.)

Fire ants, for those who are unfamiliar, are pretty much the only creature in creation that I am willing to wreak immediate, ravaging, torturous death upon at first sight. Most critters I try to discourage first, starting with the things that make life unpleasant for them: strong pine scents, cinnamon, that kind of thing. Fire ants, though, just need to die. Immediately.

And, of course, that’s how they feel about us. Once one fire ant has decided that you are worthy of being bitten (admittedly, probably because you stepped on their nest or something) all the rest rush to attack, too. So yeah, I’m lucky, because one bite is nothing except some momentary unpleasantness. Followed, in my case, by a hot shower and a mint chocolate chip ice cream bar, both of which make me feel so very fortunate.

I think said fire ant managed to get me in the backyard. I haven’t seen any mounds back there, but I was with Sophie, admiring our fence (lack thereof.)

April’s tree fall took it out, but Milton honestly just demolished it. And unfortunately for me and Sophie, replacing it is going to take a while. On the other hand, fortunately for me and Sophie, temporary fencing is surprisingly cheap. I have no idea whether that stuff will really work, but I ordered 50 ft worth from Amazon this morning, to be delivered tomorrow, so we’ll see. The “fence” that’s been in place for the past five months was really just a couple tarps, strung up on broken boards, and Sophie was willing to accept it as a fence after being given a sharp, “NO!” the first few times she went through it, so I hope she’ll accept this stuff as a fence, too. It won’t be the most aesthetically pleasing fence ever created, but if we can still play ball, we’ll be happy.

In other news, we got our power back late Saturday afternoon, our Internet back about an hour ago, so more yay! I don’t know how long the giant piles of debris will be in everyone’s front yards, but I think (or rather my landlord thinks) that the city will be sending trucks out to collect it all eventually.

Our pile is probably the biggest on our street, but nowhere close to the biggest in the neighborhood.

In other news… nope, I got nothing. In my hurricane prep stage, I did most of the right things: I bought water, I charged my devices, I parked my car carefully, I stocked up on canned goods. However, I did not download all my work in progress from the cloud. It didn’t even cross my mind. On Thursday when I opened up the app I’ve been using on my still fully-charged computer, I had to blink at the blank screen for a couple seconds before I realized that of course all my notes were gone. Or not gone, just not actually on my computer. It’s amazing what we start taking for granted. I would not have done that in my van life days.

But today’s goal, such as it is, is to open up my various files and figure out where I was. I need to pick one of my many works-in-progess and start writing. I suppose the hurricane time could have been focused, distraction-free time, but it really didn’t work that way. This week will be more productive. And it will include ice cream. How satisfying. 🙂

Still no power, and no sign that we will be getting power anytime soon. Want to know how I know?

Does that look like a picture you saw before, earlier in the year, when a tree nearly landed on top of me and took out our electric wires? It’s not. It is the same tree. And the same electric wires. But it’s the post-Milton other tree branch, taking out those electric wires for the second time this year.

I suppose the good news is that it’s unlikely to ever happen again, given that there’s not a lot left of the tree.

On the other hand, there are more trees back there, including this fascinating example:

I’m honestly just mystified by this. Where did the skinny tree on the left come from? How did it wind up nonchalantly leaning against the bigger tree? I guess it’s a branch that came down? Well, that broke off, I guess, since you can’t exactly say it fell down. (Yet! It’s obviously gonna fall someday.) But it is not at all clear to me where it broke off from. The tree farther to the right, not shown in this picture, is the obvious suspect. It’s the tree in the top image, and yeah, it lost its branch but that branch took out the fence and the electric wires, and there weren’t two branches. Plus it just doesn’t look like a branch from that tree. So weird!

But as you can see, it was a pretty solid storm, even here, and yeah, we’ve got no power, no internet, and no timetable for getting either of them back. No one from the power company has even wandered by to look at those wires. Alas!

Fortunately, Christina does have power and internet, so I am currently hanging out at her house, charging my devices and appreciating the quiet of a neighborhood that does not have a generator running at every other house. The noise of the generators is ferocious — I do not understand how people stand it. I hate it and they’re not even in my driveway.

Other things I hate today: poor Sophie has had a seriously upset stomach. Purging from both ends. I have no idea why, and fortunately she still seems lively enough (no hiding underneath things) but I’m not willing to let her off-leash by the fallen electric wires so it has meant a lot of walking. And also the normal anxiety of whether or not I should be taking her to a vet, except, you know, power outages, hurricane recovery, etc. I think she’s okay, because she’s certainly acting okay, but I wish we weren’t hitting a weekend.

Enough whining from me? Yep, because overall, we’re fine, all is well, the storm is over and in the grand scheme of things, I feel pretty fortunate that electricity is not a life-and-death issue for me.

And that said, the weirdest part of yesterday (Thursday, the day of/after the storm) was living in an information vacuum. No power, no internet, and the cell towers were so overloaded that it was mostly impossible to get a website to load. Even sending messages was slow and images wouldn’t go through at all. It was so strange to just be unable to check the news. I don’t consider myself tied to my cell phone, but I kept trying, over and over again, even when it was clearly pointless. Information addiction is a thing, I guess.

 

 

Waiting for a hurricane is always some mix of stress and tedium.

Waiting for a Category 5 hurricane ups the stress, doesn’t change the tedium.

After a really nice weekend with the BBE, highlights of which included my favorite patio in downtown Sanford; a morning of flea market shopping, and an excellent movie (The Wild Robot), Monday was less fun. Which is a little unfair to my Monday — we actually had a nice, albeit rainy, walk in the morning, and a good lunch at a Mexican restaurant over in Mount Dora — but it was a day spent feeling like the clock was ticking.

Tick, tick, tick, do ALL the things.

Really, there’s not a tremendous amount to do. We tied down the furniture on my parents porch; I dropped the BBE off at the airport; I filled my gas tank; I plugged in everything that needs to be charged, including my battery pack for jumpstarting my car; I moved my own porch chairs and outdoor carpets into a shed in the backyard, and then… Jamie made coffee.

Like, a lot of coffee.

Because I don’t honestly expect that the storm itself is going to damage us much. It’ll hit the coast sometime tomorrow, and that’s going to be super ugly, no doubt about it. This isn’t going to be one of those storms where afterward it feels like the news media was just having a slow news day. But those folks are going to get the brunt of it. This far inland, we’re currently expecting 44-55 MPH winds, with gusts up to 70 MPH. That’s about 100 MPH less than they’re expecting at the coast.

That said, we will lose power. And maybe we’ll lose power for a long time. I’m going to be surprised if it’s more than a week, but I’m not going to be surprised at all if it’s 3-5 days. I don’t have a grill here, or even my camp stove — I lost both of them in the move — so that means no cooking, not even boiling water. I’d already bought a couple cases of water, so I think we’ll be okay on drinking water, but I do not want to spend the next five days with a caffeine withdrawal headache. So yeah, hurricane prep = making a big stockpile of frozen coffee, so that we’ve got a week’s worth just in case.

Today’s plan: to cook all, or most of, the food in the freezer. I’ve got a pork tenderloin, two packages of chicken thighs, and a package of ground turkey. For me, that’s way more than a week’s worth of meat, but I’m figuring I’ll cook it all while I can, then stick it back in the freezer so it lasts as long as possible.

I might also make one last run to a store for, of all things, a notebook and maybe a couple pens. I’m not going to be able to recharge my computer until we have power back, so I won’t be able to work, but it might be nice to be able to write even without power. I anticipate being very bored this upcoming weekend. And I currently do not own ANYTHING on which I could write. No stash of scrap paper, no typing paper, no old half-used paper journals, no nothing. Literally, no paper. If I decided I wanted to write, I’d be absolutely out of luck, which is a really weird realization. So I might try to solve that problem before it becomes a problem, although I expect all stores are going to be unpleasantly crowded with people panic buying, so maybe not, too.

And then we wait. I fully expect that we’ll have no internet for a while after tomorrow, but I’m going to try to show some restraint today and not doom-scroll all day long, even though the temptation is very much there. Mostly because I wasn’t doom-scrolling over the weekend, too busy having fun, and while I wasn’t looking Milton went from “just another storm” to “OMFG, maybe it’s time to run.” (More for the people on the coast than for me, though.) Still, that’s really an unpleasant thing to have happen while you’re not looking, IMO.

Deciding what choices to make is probably the worst part of preparing for a disaster. Do I need to fill the spare gas can? Do I have enough canned food? Are candles really necessary in a world with cell phones, flashlights, and USB lights? Is a weather radio useful or just a leftover from the 20th century? But I was talking to a friend on my morning Sophie walk and she has family on the coast. They’re not evacuating, they think they’ll be fine. Maybe they will be. I am very, very, very glad, however, that my decisions are not at all about “Will I survive?” and mostly about “How bored am I going to be?” with a tiny dash of “How uncomfortable am I going to be?”

I’m hoping the answer to both questions is “not very,” but I’ll let you know next week. Meanwhile, if you’re the kind of person who says prayers, add some prayers for Florida to your list. Meteorologists sometimes seem overly pessimistic, but even if their worst-case scenarios don’t happen, Milton looks fierce.

But for now, I wait.